1. Umthambo uqala ngokuzinceda ngokwasengqondweni
Andazi ukuba unayo le feeling: xa uziva uphantsi, nokuba ukhe wehla nje uhambe, umoya uya kukhululeka ngendlela engaqondakaliyo. Ndandikade ndicinga ukuba umthambo kukunciphisa umzimba okanye ukumila, kude kube lusuku olunye uxinzelelo lukhulu kakhulu ukuphefumla, Ndafumanisa ukuba umthambo ukwangokwasengqondweni “ukuzinceda”.
Ndingumsebenzi weofisi ophakathi, ukuhlala phambi kwekhompyutha ubuncinane iiyure ezisibhozo okanye ezisithoba ngosuku. Ixesha elidlulele, hayi ukuqina kwentamo kuphela, iintlungu zamagxa, umoya uya usiba nomsindo ngakumbi. Ingakumbi ixesha elongezelelweyo ukuya ebusuku, ingqondo elele phantsi isajika, ukuphuthelwa kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kamva, ngokwengcebiso yomhlobo, Ndandizama ukubaleka isiqingatha seyure emva komsebenzi yonke imihla.
2. Umthambo awupheleli nje ekubileleni, imalunga ne-dopamine
Ukunyaniseka, kwakubuhlungu ngokwenene ekuqaleni. Xa ndiqala ukubaleka, umoya wam ubufutshane, imilenze yam ibinzima, kwaye bendifuna ukuncama emva kwemizuzu emihlanu. Ngokukodwa ukubona ezinye zibaleka ngokulula iikhilomitha ezilishumi, nekhilomitha enye yemizamo yabo, umsantsa ngokwasengqondweni mkhulu kakhulu. Kodwa umlingo kukuba ngalo lonke ixesha unamathela kuyo, wonke umntu uba lula kakhulu, ngakumbi ingqondo icacile, kwaye umoya uzinzile. Ulala ngokukhawuleza ebusuku kwaye uzive ungcono kakhulu ngosuku olulandelayo.
Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, Ndaqaphela ukuba izinto ezincinci ezidla ngokundiphambanisa, njengololiwe oza emva kwemizuzu embalwa okanye abantu endisebenza nabo bevakala beqina kancinci, ayikhange indikhathaze kangako. Imeko yengqondo ezolileyo kunye nokukhathazeka okuncinci kakhulu. Ukuzivocavoca akuphuculi nje ukulala kwam kunye nesimo somzimba, kodwa okona kubalulekileyo, ichaphazela imo yam nobuntu bam.
Kamva, Ndajonga ulwazi oluthile ukuze ndiqonde ukuba ngexesha lokuzilolonga, ingqondo iya kukhulula i-dopamine, endorphins, ezi “Iihomoni ezonwabileyo”, inokuphelisa ngokufanelekileyo uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, kwaye kwaziwa ngokuba zii-antidepressants zendalo. Olunye uphononongo lukwabonise ukuba umthambo we-aerobic uphantse wasebenza njengengcebiso kunye namayeza oxinzelelo olungephi.
Nangona umthambo awukwazi ukusombulula zonke iingxaki ebomini, kunokusinika ithuba lokuphefumla ngaphambi kokuba siphelelwe ngamandla ngokweemvakalelo. Konke ukubaleka okanye ukubila kufana nokuxolelana nam, undikhumbuza ukuba xa umzimba wam uhamba, ingqondo yam ayisayi kubanjiswa ngalo lonke ixesha.
3. Zive ulawula ngakumbi ubomi bakho
Kodwa ayisiyiyo nje i-chemistry etshintsha izinto. Olona tshintsho lukhulu kum yayiyimvakalelo yokulawula.
Isantya sobomi bale mihla sikhawuleza kakhulu, iiselfowuni zikhala rhoqo, umsebenzi awusoze wenziwe, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi siziva ngathi sidangele, utyhalwa phambili lixesha kunye nemisebenzi. Uvuka unoluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa, kwaye uvala ngolwazi olungafundwanga. Ixesha elidlulele, abantu baqala ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo “ukulahlekelwa kolawulo” – ingekuko ukuba sihleli, kodwa obo bomi buyasityhala.
Kodwa xa ndibaleka, ihlabathi libonakala licotha. Ii-headphones zibeka umculo opholileyo, iinyawo kunye nokuphefumla ukwenza esazo isingqisho, nokuba itrafiki inzima, ingxolo, Ithe cwaka intliziyo yam. Kwisiqingatha seyure, Bekunganyanzelekanga ukuba ndithethe, akunyanzelekanga ukuba aphendule imiyalezo, ndigxile nje ekubeni ndingubani na ngelo xesha. Akukho tyhala, akukho ntsebenzo, akukho KPI, mna kuphela kunye nendlela phantsi kweenyawo zam. Le meko yobunyulu kunye nokugxininiswa yinto endingenakuyifumana ebomini bam bemihla ngemihla.
Unokuthi ibikukuqhwesha, kodwa ndikhetha ukuyibiza “ndizifumane.” Kwinkqubo yokunyakaza, Ndiphinde ndithethe nomzimba wam, yiva kwakhona isingqi kunye nokuphefumla, kwaye ufumane kwakhona isiqu esinokucotha, inokugxila, inokukhupha. Nokuba yisiqingatha seyure nje, ukuba ingqondo “ubunini” ixesha lam lanele ukundinceda ndixhathise isiphithiphithi kunye nokudinwa kosuku.
Kwaye, ixesha elidlulele, Ndifumanise ukuba umthambo undenze ukuba ndingachaphazeleki kakhulu kwimpembelelo yangaphandle. Ndizinzile ngokweemvakalelo, Ndithatha isigqibo ngakumbi kwizigqibo zam. Mhlawumbi le yenye imbonakaliso ye “ukuziva kulawulo” : engalawuli yonke into, kodwa ukwazi ukuzinza xa ujongene nokungaqiniseki kobomi.
4. Zonke iindidi zokuzilolonga zinendlela yazo yokuphilisa
Kamva, Ndazama i-yoga, ukuqubha, ukuhamba intaba, nemidlalo eyahlukeneyo yandinika iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo.
- Yoga indenze ndawuqonda kwakhona umzimba kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo ezininzi zifihliwe emzimbeni, ezifana ne-hunchback yexesha elide kunye nokuzithemba kwangaphakathi;
- Ukuqubha luhlobo lokuphumla okugqithisileyo, imvakalelo yokurhangqwa ngamanzi yenza abantu bazive bekhuselekile njengokubuyela esibelekweni sikanina;
- Ukuhamba kufana nohambo lokomoya, ukuhamba kwindalo, i “ingxolo” entliziyweni kuya kuhla kuphuma kuyo.
5. Ukuzilolonga akulonyango, kodwa inokukunceda ukuba womelele
Kanjalo, umthambo awulonyango. Ayinakucombulula zonke iingxaki, kuhlawulele imali yakho yokubambisa, okanye wenze umphathi wakho ngokukhawuleza abe nobubele kwaye umsebenzi wakho ube lula. Inyani ihlala iyinyani, kwaye ubunzima bobomi abuyi kunyamalala ngenxa nje yokuba ubalekele iikhilomitha ezimbalwa. Kodwa ukubaluleka komthambo akukho malunga “ukusombulula iingxaki”, kodwa isenze sikwazi ukomelela ngakumbi xa sijongene nezi ngxaki.
Xa umntu ediniwe emzimbeni nasengqondweni, boyiswa ngokulula zizinto ezingenamsebenzi. Into eziswa yimidlalo ayingokuqina komzimba kuphela kodwa nokomelela kwengqondo. Ikunika indawo yokuphuma xa ukwimo ephantsi kunye nokuzithemba kancinci xa uxinzelelo lusiza. Kufana nokuba ubomi bukuphatha kakubi amakhadi; ezemidlalo aziyi kuphucula amakhadi, kodwa ikunika amandla kunye nokuzola ukuze udlale nganye ngaphandle kokuphakuzela.
Ukuzilolonga nako kusenza siqonde ukuba sinjalo “kulawulo”. Unokukhetha ukuphakama, phuma ubile ngaphandle kokulinda naliphi na ithuba okanye imvume yabanye. Le nkqubo iqalwe kwaye igqitywe nguwe ngokuthe ngcembe iya kwakha inkolelo kwi-subconscious yakho “Ndiyakwazi ukutshintsha into”. Yaye le nkolelo ixabiseke ngakumbi xa ujongene neenkalo ezingalawulekiyo zobomi.
Nokuba yimizuzu engamashumi amathathu ngosuku, kwanele ukuba ube yinkxaso yangaphakathi. Hayi ukuba ngumntu onamandla okoyisa ihlabathi, kodwa ukugcina isantya kunye nengqibelelo yomntu kweli hlabathi lisoloko litshintsha.
6. Zinike ithuba lokushukuma
Ke, ukuba uziva uphantsi mva nje, ukuswela amandla, kwaye ufumanise ukuba kuyadinisa ukuvula ikhethini, kutheni ungaziniki ithuba lokushukuma? Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe bukhali, yaye akuyomfuneko ukuba uzibekele usukelo olubalaseleyo kwasekuqaleni. Kwanento elula njengokuhamba 5,000 amanyathelo ngosuku, ukuthatha ithanga kwindawo yakho, okanye ukwenza iiseti ezimbalwa zolula ekhaya sisiqalo.
Uya kufumanisa ukuba nokubila okulula okanye nje imizuzu embalwa yokuhamba inokukhulula umoya wakho. Rhoqo, ayisiyiyo into yokuba thina ngokwenene “andinakuyenza,” kodwa ukuba sibanjiswe ziimvakalelo zethu ixesha elide kwaye sidinga ukushukunyiswa okuthambileyo ukuvusa amandla ethu endalo.
Obu bunzima abufuni ukukholisa nabani na okanye ukufezekisa nayiphi na injongo ethile; ikhona nje kuwe. Kufana nokukhanyisa isibane, ikuvumela ukuba ubone esakho isingqi kunye nesalathiso kwakhona phakathi kwesiphithiphithi kunye nesiphithiphithi sobomi.
Ekugqibeleni, Ndingathanda ukwabelana ngesicatshulwa endisithandayo:
“Imidlalo ayingokutshintsha indlela abanye abakubona ngayo, bamalunga nokutshintsha indlela olibona ngayo ihlabathi.”
